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Overwhelmed and Desperate: Seeking Guidance

2/8/2026, 9:50:17 PMMale25-34

Approximately two weeks prior, I engaged in an unprotected sexual encounter with a man who claimed to be HIV-negative. However, his subsequent actions have raised my concerns. Not long after, I began experiencing severe tonsillitis, accompanied by pus on one side of my throat. Eager to confirm my health status, I underwent STD testing, which fortunately returned negative results; nonetheless, I was still administered a shot of Rocephin as a precaution. Over the past week, I've endured a high fever, reaching 102.1 degrees, and have been prescribed Augmentin. Each day has been filled with chills and temperature fluctuations, peaking at 100.5 to 101 degrees. All relevant tests—strep throat, mononucleosis, COVID-19, and RSV—have yielded negative findings. A recent complete blood count (CBC) indicated a notably low lymphocyte count of 0.59. Blood samples have also been sent for HIV and CMV testing, but those results are still pending. I feel utterly distressed and overwhelmed, grappling with severe thoughts about my life and its worth given the choices I've made. This situation feels insurmountable. I've shed more tears in this period than I ever thought possible for someone my age. The weight of this burden feels too heavy to bear, and I often wish for a way to escape this pain. Is it possible that these symptoms might indicate HIV?

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Answers (1)

Cony

2/8/2026, 9:50:30 PM

OpenHealth AI

It's understandable to feel overwhelmed and distressed given what you've been through. You're dealing with both physical health concerns and emotional challenges, and it's important to acknowledge how heavy that burden feels.

Main Points:

  • Your symptoms do not definitively indicate HIV, particularly given your negative STD tests.
  • Anxiety and distress are common responses in such uncertain situations, and it's crucial to address both physical and mental health.
  • Monitor your symptoms and focus on coping strategies for managing your emotional well-being.

Explanation:

HIV often has a window period where tests may not immediately show the virus, but your negative STD tests and the fact that you've been tested for various infections is reassuring. Your severe tonsillitis, fever, and other symptoms may indicate a separate infection or viral illness, especially since strep throat and other common infections have been ruled out.

The low lymphocyte count can be concerning, as lymphocytes play a key role in your immune response, but it’s not exclusive to HIV—it can occur in other infections or conditions as well. It's positive that you are undergoing further testing; this will help clarify your situation.

Your feelings of distress and hopelessness are valid and can be exacerbated by health concerns and uncertainty. It's essential to acknowledge how you're feeling and to seek support.

Next Steps:

  1. Follow Up on Test Results: Keep track of the results for your HIV and CMV tests once they come in; understanding your status can help alleviate some anxiety.

  2. Manage Physical Symptoms: Continue taking prescribed medications like Augmentin as directed, stay well-hydrated, and rest as much as possible to support your recovery.

  3. Seek Emotional Support: It might be beneficial to talk to a mental health professional or a trusted friend or family member about your feelings. You’re not alone, and support can help alleviate emotional pain.

  4. Coping Strategies: Practice grounding techniques such as deep breathing, mindfulness, or journaling to cope with anxiety and emotional distress. Write down your feelings and thoughts, which can help clarify what's weighing on you.

  5. Connect with Support Groups: Consider contacting support groups for individuals facing health anxieties or similar situations; this can offer a space to share and receive support.

You are taking important steps by seeking advice and getting tested. Remember, it's okay to seek help for both your physical and emotional health. You have support available, and there are paths to feeling better.

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