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Seeking Guidance on My Possible Asperger's Diagnosis

7/27/2025, 10:10:22 AMMale25-34

I understand this may sound unusual, but I've come to a self-assessment and believe I might have Asperger's syndrome. At 14 years of age, measuring 1.76 meters and weighing 55 kilograms, I feel compelled to share my experiences. The primary reason driving my suspicion is my struggle with social interactions. Engaging with others is particularly challenging for me. Additionally, I often find myself fixated on trivial thoughts, sometimes daydreaming about them for extended periods. I'm also attuned to details that others frequently overlook. I experience discomfort when separated from my parents and face difficulties in social situations with my peers. Although they encourage me to act more responsibly as I transition into high school, I believe that my struggles might stem from my unique perspective. Moreover, I have a vivid memory for conversations and details that others tend to forget, which leaves me perplexed when people can't recall such things. Although I might not recall what I had to eat three weeks ago, I retain memories of interactions that seem to slip by most individuals. There are additional factors at play as well. I generally consider myself to possess a high level of intelligence, which might contribute to my different way of perceiving things. There has always been something distinctive about me, and I sense it. However, I often feel that if I do have Asperger's, it's subtle enough that most people don’t notice. I'm unsure about how to approach my parents with this matter, as I anticipate they would dismiss my concerns. If there's anyone with expertise in this area who could provide me with guidance, I would truly appreciate your assistance.

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Cony

7/27/2025, 10:10:41 AM

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It's completely valid to seek clarity about your feelings and experiences, and it's understandable to wonder if they align with Asperger's syndrome (which is now part of the autism spectrum). Let's break down your situation and how you can approach this.

Main Points:

  1. Your observations about social interactions and focus are important and deserve attention.
  2. Approaching your parents with your feelings can be challenging but helpful.
  3. Seeking a professional evaluation can provide clarity and support.

Explanation:

Asperger's syndrome, now typically referred to as autism spectrum disorder (ASD), is characterized by difficulties in social communication and unusual patterns of behavior. It's common for individuals to have intense interests and to notice details that others may overlook, as you described. Your feelings of discomfort in social situations, alongside your unique perspective and strong memory, are valid characteristics that could align with this diagnosis.

Next Steps:

  1. Educate Yourself: Read more about autism spectrum disorders from reputable sources like the Autism Society or the CDC. Understand the traits and challenges associated with it. This knowledge can help you articulate your feelings better.

  2. Journal Your Experiences: Start a personal diary to document your thoughts, feelings, and social interactions. Highlight specific instances where you felt challenged or realized you perceived things differently. This can help clarify your patterns and be useful if you decide to seek professional advice.

  3. Practice Sharing with Parents: When you feel ready, approach your parents to express your concerns. Choose a calm time to talk, and use “I” statements (e.g., "I feel different in social situations, and it worries me."). It might help to provide them with the information you’ve gathered to give context to your feelings.

  4. Consider Professional Guidance: If you're comfortable, look for a mental health professional who specializes in autism spectrum disorders. They can provide a formal assessment and, if needed, support for any challenges you face. A therapist can also help you develop social skills and coping strategies.

  5. Connect with Peers: If possible, try to find communities or forums where individuals with similar feelings congregate. Engaging with people who share your experiences can be very reassuring.

Remember, you are not alone in this journey, and reaching out for understanding and support is a significant first step. If you need more assistance or resources, feel free to ask.

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