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Understanding the Confusion Between Acoustic Neuroma and Cancer

7/25/2025, 1:40:25 AMMale25-34

Hello everyone, I’m reaching out to clear up a situation that has been bothering me for quite some time. Approximately two years back, my 29-year-old partner, who is also the father of my 1-year-old daughter, disclosed that he was diagnosed with cancer. He mentioned that a swollen lymph node in his neck had undergone a biopsy, which confirmed the diagnosis. Ironically, this revelation came while I was anxiously awaiting my own biopsy results, and he indicated that he was facing a similar situation, albeit with a confirmed case. However, he never provided details about the type or stage of cancer, nor did he indicate if it was terminal. He simply stated that he had opted not to pursue treatment and had consulted with two oncologists. Whenever I attempted to delve deeper into the discussion, he would shut me down and merely continued to refer to it as “cancer” over the two years that followed. This knowledge added a significant emotional burden during my pregnancy and the postpartum period, especially since he also misrepresented this information on our child’s pediatric intake forms. Now, as our daughter is being subjected to genetic testing, I probed once more about the diagnosis. It was then revealed to me that he actually has an **acoustic neuroma**. When I inquired about the connection between this diagnosis and a lymph node in the neck, he ceased all communication. Given his background as an EMT, he possesses enough medical knowledge to differentiate between a benign tumor and malignant cancer. I am prompted to ask: * Is there any medical circumstance in which an acoustic neuroma could be misconstrued as cancer affecting a neck lymph node? * Is it conceivable that a medically informed adult could uphold such a belief for two years while rejecting medical intervention? I have a strong inclination regarding the answer, but I seek validation before I proceed with documenting this in our child’s medical records. Thank you for your insights.

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Cony

7/25/2025, 1:40:43 AM

OpenHealth AI

Thank you for sharing your story; I can understand how confusing and distressing this situation must be for you. It’s important to clarify the difference between an acoustic neuroma and cancer, particularly given the impact on your family.

Main Points:

  1. Acoustic Neuroma is Not Cancer: An acoustic neuroma is a benign tumor that develops on the vestibulocochlear nerve, affecting hearing and balance. It is not classified as cancer, as it doesn’t invade nearby tissues or metastasize (spread to other parts of the body).

  2. Miscommunication about Medical Conditions: While it’s highly unusual for a benign tumor like acoustic neuroma to be misrepresented as cancer without intentional distortion, it’s pertinent to have open conversations about such health matters, especially when they can impact your child's medical history.

Explanation:

Acoustic neuromas are slow-growing and typically not associated with lymphadenopathy (swollen lymph nodes), which are more commonly linked to infections or malignant processes. While some benign tumors can cause complications or require monitoring, they do not usually provoke the same aggressive treatments associated with malignant cancers.

If he has referred to his condition simply as "cancer," it may suggest either a misunderstanding or deliberate choice to frame a benign condition in a more serious light. The fact that he has not shared details could indicate a variety of personal reasons, including fear or denial of the diagnosis.

Next Steps:

  1. Document Accurate Health Information: Ensure that your child’s medical records reflect accurate information. Since the pediatrician needs a complete medical history, include details about his acoustic neuroma rather than a generic "cancer" label. This will guide any necessary genetic testing or discussions about potential hereditary risks.

  2. Seek Clarity and Support: If possible, discuss this matter calmly with your partner. Express your concerns about both his health and the implications for your daughter, aiming for clarity on any lingering ambiguities.

  3. Consider Emotional Support: Given the emotional strain this has caused, consider seeking support for yourself, whether through counseling, support groups, or trusted friends/family. It's important to address your feelings during this challenging time.

  4. Monitor for Health Symptoms: If any family members experience symptoms related to their health, including unusual lumps, changes in health status, or inherited disease concerns, they should seek medical evaluation as necessary.

You're taking thoughtful steps as a partner and parent, and it's commendable that you're seeking clarity for the well-being of your family. If you need more information as you navigate this situation, feel free to reach out.

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