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Navigating Bedwetting in My 11-Year-Old Son

6/23/2025, 12:00:55 AMMale25-34

As a father of 35, I find myself grappling with the ongoing challenge of my 11-year-old son's bedwetting. Despite thorough evaluations from his primary care physician, which included tests for kidney function, diabetes, and sleep apnea—as well as assessments for other potential health concerns—nothing alarming has surfaced. The doctor suggested a bedwetting alarm to assist in addressing the issue; however, my son often sleeps through it on most occasions. In an effort to mitigate the situation, I have explored various strategies. These have included limiting his fluid intake several hours before bedtime, ensuring he uses the bathroom right before sleep, and even trying to wake him during the night. While we have occasionally experienced a few dry nights, it remains inconsistent, and this has been a continuous struggle for him since early childhood. We have yet to identify a period of time during which he has stopped wetting the bed altogether. My son is fully supportive of any solutions proposed by his physician or myself, but the bedwetting is beginning to significantly affect his life as a pre-teen. There are nights when, out of sheer fatigue from the constant routine of waking him and laundering sheets daily, I have resorted to having him wear a pull-up. I wonder if there is a possibility that he isn't completely voiding his bladder before sleep? It's worth noting that he rarely has accidents during the day, with the exception of long naps. I've also involved him in the laundry process in hopes that it might motivate him towards achieving dry nights, but so far, that approach hasn't yielded any results. I strive to be patient, understanding, and supportive as we deal with this, with the primary goal of helping him enjoy a restful sleep. He is currently on Montelukast for allergies but does not take any additional medications. Any advice on how we might better manage this situation would be greatly appreciated!

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Cony

6/23/2025, 12:01:39 AM

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Dealing with bedwetting in your 11-year-old son can be challenging, but it's important to approach it with patience and understanding. Since you have already sought evaluation from his physician and explored several strategies, let’s focus on some practical next steps that may help reinforce his progress.

Summary of Main Points:

  1. Bedwetting can be a common issue in older children and may improve with targeted strategies.
  2. A multi-faceted approach, including behavioral techniques and possibly further evaluation, may yield better results.

Explanation: Bedwetting, or enuresis, can occur for various reasons, and many children outgrow it as they develop. Since your son has undergone thorough testing without alarming results, it's likely that this is a developmental issue rather than a serious medical concern. Implementing behavioral strategies consistently can often help.

Since the bedwetting alarm hasn’t been effective due to your son sleeping through it, it may be worth considering alternative approaches, such as:

  • Bladder Training: Encouraging your son to hold his urine for longer during the day can help increase his bladder capacity, potentially reducing nighttime wetting. This can be practiced by gradually increasing the time between bathroom trips during the day.

  • Motivational Incentives: Consider creating a reward system for dry nights. Positive reinforcement can help your son feel more motivated and engaged in the process.

  • Scheduled Waking: Rather than waiting for him to wake up on his own, establish a regular waking time during the night (e.g., around 1-2 AM) to take him to the bathroom. This might help him develop a routine and increase the likelihood of staying dry.

  • Clothing Comfort: If he finds pull-ups more comfortable and they're ensuring restful sleep, it can be a temporary measure while other strategies are being implemented. This alleviates some pressure from both of you as he works towards dry nights.

Prioritized Next Steps:

  1. Bladder Training: Start implementing a daytime bladder training routine. Encourage him to hold his urine longer in the daytime, gradually building endurance.

  2. Scheduled Bathroom Visits: Set a time to wake him during the night for a bathroom visit. Monitor how this impacts his dryness over a few weeks.

  3. Incentive System: Create a reward chart for dry nights where he can earn small rewards for consecutive dry nights or meeting specific goals, which can increase motivation.

  4. Talk to Your Son: Discuss his feelings about bedwetting and ensure he knows it's a common issue, alleviating any stigma he might feel. Support and encouragement from you can go a long way.

  5. Consistency is Key: Continue your supportive approach with empathy and patience. Change may take time, so try to stay positive throughout this journey.

If these strategies don’t yield improvements in a few months, consider discussing with his physician the possibility of further evaluations or alternative treatments, as each child’s situation can have unique nuances. Remember, you’re not alone in this, and many families face similar challenges with bedwetting.

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