OpenHealth Q&A

It's completely understandable to feel anxious about your upcoming visit to the OB-GYN, especially with sensitive topics like self-harm in mind. Here are the main points to consider:

1. Confidentiality: Your doctor is legally required to keep your health information private. This includes any discussions about self-harm and its scars. They are unlikely to mention them to your mother unless you specifically consent to that discussion.

2. Focus of the Visit: Typically, an OB-GYN appointment focuses on reproductive health, including discussions about menstrual cycles, sexual health, and any specific concerns you might have. While the doctor might assess your overall well-being, they usually only address issues that are directly relevant to the visit.

3. Preparation and Communication: It can be helpful to mentally prepare by thinking about what you want to discuss. If you don’t feel comfortable talking about certain issues in front of your mom, you can ask to speak to the doctor alone.

Next Steps:

• Communicate Your Needs: Before the appointment, consider telling your doctor that you would like to have some alone time during your visit. This can help you feel more comfortable discussing anything that is troubling you, including self-harm.
• Practice Self-Care: Try to engage in relaxing activities today - whether that’s listening to music, going for a walk, or practicing deep breathing exercises. This can help calm your nerves before the appointment.
• List Your Questions or Concerns: Write down any specific issues you want to discuss, including questions about your health, so you don’t forget them during the appointment.

Feel reassured that your feelings are valid, and that taking time to prepare can help make the visit a more comfortable experience. You’re in charge of what you choose to discuss, and reaching out for support is a brave step.