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Navigating HPV Diagnosis and Concerns in a Relationship

3/21/2025, 7:00:33 PMMale25-34

I’m a 27-year-old male dating a 30-year-old female. In November 2024, my girlfriend underwent a comprehensive health examination, which included screening for STIs and STDs. While all her other results were negative, she learned today that she tested positive for HPV, specifically HPV-53. Due to the demanding work environment in South Korea, she couldn’t get her results until now. Although she hasn’t directly accused me, I can sense her suspicion regarding my role in this diagnosis. I regularly have health checkups and recently had a clean bill of health—my last tests confirmed my negative status across the board, as I consistently undergo both blood and urine tests. Unfortunately, since there isn’t a widely accepted screening method for HPV in men, I am unable to conclusively determine if I could have transmitted the virus to her. Is it possible that I infected her with HPV? My past partners have always undergone testing as well, and I have never hesitated to request their results, which have consistently been negative. Given that HPV is generally included in these screenings, I have never seen a concerning positive result from them. Residing in South Korea for over five years, I am familiar with the norm of regular sexual health evaluations. Here’s some context to clarify the timeline: - My girlfriend was tested in November 2024 and received her results today in March 2025. - She was vaccinated against HPV in either 2011 or 2012 due to her concerns about cervical cancer. - We began dating in March 2024, and I left Korea in December 2024. Since then, our relationship has been long-distance up until now. - I identify as straight and have never engaged in sexual practices outside of heterosexual relationships. I’d appreciate any insights, particularly from healthcare professionals like doctors, urologists, or gynecologists, on the following questions: 1. Should I resume using condoms upon my return to Korea? We had shifted to oral contraceptives since she found condoms uncomfortable. 2. I’ve read that about 80-90% of sexually active individuals will contract HPV at some point. How concerned should we really be about this? 3. What are the chances that I could have transmitted HPV to her? 4. Are there any recommended practices or steps we should consider going forward? Thanks for taking the time to help!

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Answers (1)

Cony

3/21/2025, 7:01:01 PM

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It's understandable to have concerns about HPV, especially in the context of your relationship. Let’s address your questions clearly and provide actionable steps moving forward.

Main Points:

  1. Condom Use: Yes, consider resuming condom use.
  2. Public Health Perspective on HPV: HPV is common; most people will encounter it, though vigilance is important.
  3. Transmission Concerns: Transmission is possible, but context matters.
  4. Future Steps: Continued communication and vaccination are crucial.

Explanation:

  1. Condum Use: While HPV can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact, using condoms can help reduce the risk of transmission. Given your girlfriend's recent diagnosis, it may be wise to resume condom usage upon your return to Korea until further clarity is achieved regarding your own HPV status and the implications of her infection.

  2. HPV Prevalence: HPV is the most common sexually transmitted infection (STI), and many sexually active individuals will contract it at some point in their lives. While it’s typically not a cause for major concern, especially if asymptomatic, certain strains can lead to health issues such as cervical cancer, which is why vaccination and regular screening are important.

  3. Transmission Risk: The exact likelihood of transmission isn't easily definitive, but it is possible that you could have transmitted HPV to your girlfriend if you were carry the virus asymptomatically. Many people can have HPV without knowing it, which complicates matters since men often aren’t routinely screened.

  4. Recommended Steps:

    • Condoms: Return to using condoms to minimize risk.
    • Communicate: Have an open discussion with your girlfriend about your concerns and the importance of health.
    • Vaccination: If you haven’t been vaccinated against HPV, consider discussing this with a healthcare provider. Vaccination can help protect against the most common cancer-causing HPV types and could be beneficial in reducing risks in the future.
    • Monitor Health: Both of you should continue regular health checkups and maintain open lines of communication regarding sexual health and any symptoms.

Summary:

Your girlfriend’s HPV diagnosis can understandably lead to uncertainty in your relationship. Prioritizing condom use, having honest conversations, considering vaccination, and regular health screenings will help you both feel more secure and informed moving forward. If you have further questions or need clarity on specific details, feel free to ask!

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